Too many to count, in the four congregations I have been in the numbers on meds was very high. At least 5 breakdowns with hospital stays. One sister had her meltdown while in bethel, running screaming in the corridors hitting her husband. They were asked to leave after 20 years there, she got no help. Last time I saw her she was wearing smeared lipstick across her face and started yelling at me in the loos at the assembly because I asked how she was, her husband acted oblivious of everything and kept his position doing his elder stuff. Many sad cases.
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how many in your cong had nervous breakdowns?
by highdose inof the congregation i spent my life in i would say a good 75% had nervous breakdowns at some point.
and often there was never really a obivous reason for it.
well not that we jw's could understand at the time.. even the queen bee's/ elderettes were not immune to this.. what about you?.
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The new house...
by Aussie Oz inwell, time for an update.... new house is in the country, just over an hour out of the city.
we came up and camped in the new house on settlement night...much to the shock of the real estate agent who thought we were joking!
i mean, it does need some work, and the plumbing is dodgy but works, the bathroom has all the pipes exposed and the toilet is akin to sitting in an old shed.... any way, we stay and a friend loaded up the truck saturday night and delivered our furniture sunday morning, it was not a rest saturday though as the place resembled a rubbish tip.
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chicken little
Congratulations with the new house, hope you have lots of bug repellants and detergeants! Hope you get some good neighbours, not too close by. Enjoy.
Chicken little
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Taxpayer To Foot Ripper's £500,000 Bid For Freedom
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chicken little
Why why why do JWs befriend these monsters? It is wrong and a slap in the face for the victims families when they say he shows real remorse.
Elders think they are God and can read minds. Let him die in prison, he gets to eat doesn't he?
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If you like EGGPLANT, what is your favorite recipe?
by Nathan Natas ini could think of no more pressing question to raise at this time.. remember: the fate of millions may rest in your hands!.
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chicken little
Second favourite, salt two sliced aubergines, leave to sweat. After 30 mins rinse them and pat dry on paper towel. Brown a chicken in oil, remove and brown the aubergines in oil, add large jar of sliced red peppers and the chicken, sprinkle in two teaspoons of sweet paprika, season with salt. Cover the pan and cook on low for one and half hours on top of stove. Serve with rice. Getting hungry here.
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If you like EGGPLANT, what is your favorite recipe?
by Nathan Natas ini could think of no more pressing question to raise at this time.. remember: the fate of millions may rest in your hands!.
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chicken little
I love Aubergine.............as we call it here. Easy dish here............. poke a pin or squewer through a couple of aubergines, place them on a barbaque or under a grill; let the skin go black and the centre should be soft. Cool off the rub off the skin and put the flesh into a blender with juice of one lemon, lots of olive oil, salt and four large garlic cloves. Blend and adjust seasoning, serve with pita bread or toast and chopped corriander or parsley...........yum yum
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Anyone Else Ever Experience This?
by thraxer68 inso as you da'd, were df'd, faded, or just mentally let go of everything you believed for so long, did you experience this weird transition phase of an "identitylessness"?
i think this might only apply to people who were "strong" in the faith.
as a strong witness, im sure those of us who were really took to heart and mind the things that we learned and counsel that the society produced.
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chicken little
I too felt the emptiness at first, I tried to fill it with reading the bible on my own. I did this for some months and then deceided to give it all a rest.
I got involved with a voluntary group and that helped me to see how ordinary people get on with helping others without having to be prompted by religion, or duty. It was a great help for me, I see people and the choices they make much differently now. The bad mistakes are often a result of bad chances early on in life, people are generally very good.
I think that if you surround yourself with positive people, get involved in community projects etc, you will find that your own inner compass will start to swing in the direction you should go. I am not naive, there are some rotten apples, but don't let that throw you off course. They are there, but so what? No one says life is easy, but there again it is not all doom and gloom as we were taught to believe.
When you face a decision that your Jw mind set would baulk at, then ask yourself why you have that reaction, is it reasonable, informed?
I have found that my boundaries have become much bigger and more open to things I would previously have closed my mind to, it is very enriching, slightly scary but quite an experience. For example I attended a christening for a baby of a lesbian couple last year, it was a lovely experience, and I do not call my self religious anymore. Still the opening of my mind and heart is almost like a spiritual experience in itself.
Hope you find your way, my motto is, "Be true to yourself"
Kind regards
Chicken little
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Can you feel the 'lurve'?
by HappyOutsideTheBox inwould this email encourage you back to the meetings?.
dear *****:.
we are so very discouraged that you did not attend the d.c.. there are no two sides of this issue today.
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Had a similar experience recently, my husband has been ill and is looking for new work. A brother called out of the blue and was very kind and offered some contacts we could phone and write to. Encouraged by this kindness my husband phoned a sister he had worked with in the past, he only wanted an address from her. The day after the call he received an email that was so horrid I cried. She accused him of using her, told him she had spoken to elders that told her we were disfellowshipped, which is not true, and that she would not want my husband working in any of the places she worked. She said she would not recommend him nor should he use her name. None of these things applied as my husband only asked for an address. She finished by saying if we came back to Jehovah she would greet us with open arms. Wonderful; warms the heart doesnt it?
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Forget what they say, most JWs do not believe the end is near...
by drew sagan ini was a baptized jw for 7 years.
during that time i repeatedly vocalized my belief that "the end is near.
" however, what did this cost me?
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We pioneered in a very poor part of inner London, the brothers and sisters were very poor and extremely zealous and gave huge amounts to the society each month in contributions, they needed to believe the end was near; there was nothing else to look forward to.
Fast forward to an english speaking cong in scandanavia, no real enthusiasm for the end; nobody gave any money to the contributions, and they had plenty of money in comparison to the other congregation. It was quite funny to hear an elder and his wife that had just bought a new very expensive house, had an art gallery and pots of money....but also pioneered, speaking about how awful the world was and how close the end was. YEAH...we could see they believed that by their life style. ;;;Parrots!
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Gratitude from a long time lurker!
by Thetis ini cannot begin to tell you how grateful i am to you!
you reassured me while i was one of the walking wounded.
you know that line from the movie "shadowlands", when the student says to c.s.
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Welcome! I have asked my husband about his approach to asking about fornication, adultery etc, he said if he was at a jc he just asked the couple or person if they knew what the two terms meant. If they said yes, then he asked if that was what had happened and then took it from there as to how they felt about it. No details were needed. Some brothers did not like this but if my husband was there then that was enough. I respect him for that, even though now he is ashamed he ever had anything to do with judging people.
Hope you find peace, and a good life, the world is not so bad you know!
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How many times have you read a post here and thought, "Wow, I thought only I felt that way about (insert spiritual/JW activity here)!"
by Crisis of Conscience ini was inspired by a few different things people said.. one dealt with if you pray(ed) regularly with your husband/wife.
a few people described how awkward they felt in doing it.
i felt like that for the longest time!
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Praying together was awful, after two months of marriage we deceided that we would just do our own, end of story. Family study with hyperactive kids.....nightmare, we would do 5 minutes then stop, it saved our marriage. I even said that at an assembly we were asked about our family study, I told the truth, lots of sisters said they were so relieved to hear me say it. My husband never was any good at keeping record of his time, he was a pioneer and out all the time so he just put down from when he went out of the door until he came in. Great way of thinking now I come to ponder over it, at the time I was worried he was cheating.
Hated collecting a huge pile of magazines and worrying how to place them, that was in the days when we had to pay for them and we had little money. I hated the tract work, each pioneer was given something like 500 tracts to place, I shoved them everywhere.
Hated the blood card, never carried it, hated the blood documents, never filled them out. The list goes on..................